Placeoflight's Blog

In regards to understanding children, we need to remember that we are all spiritual beings having a physical experience.  What we are having to learn more than anything is how to maintain that spiritual knowing while in a physical body and a material world.  When we are born, we are very closely linked with the spiritual world as we have just come from it.  Yet like with all things, some are more closely linked than others, just like some can run, draw, write, build, or do math better than most others. 

So, we come into the world as a spiritual being stuck in this seemingly useless physical shell.  Yet, especially in those places influenced by western culture, everyone seems to pay more attention to this physical shell than to the spirit self.  People count  fingers and toes, comment on the physical appearance, remark on the amount of hair or lack thereof.  While all this is going on, the spirit self is crying out, “Hey! What about me??”  The spirit self’s me is the soul that is connected with all things.  This spirit self knows your thoughts, your emotions and has a great understanding of what is happening.  The soul is NOT too young to understand! It is just that the body is not sufficiently developed for that understanding to be communicated.  This causes great frustration in the infant body and results in crying in many cases.

As explained in our book, Soulful Parenting, we need to help the soul learn how to integrate itself with the body.  We know a great deal about the developmental stages of physical and intellectual growth, but do not address how to incorporate that growth with maintaining the spiritual awareness.  Instead of keeping our children spiritually awake, we often put them to sleep! 

So, because we are spiritual beings first, always view your child as the ancient soul s/he is.  Many children who act out do so because they are misusing their abilities or unable to use them at all! 

A second thing that is important to remember is that the body develops its world view by the time it is five years old!  We do not have a long window of time during which to keep this connection open!  We cannot wait until the body is “older” to begin working on this!  When we ask a two year old to make a scratch feel better, they simply do it.  A twelve year old with no experience would simply look at us and wonder “how on earth do I do that?”  Children learn 75% of what they know by their third birthday!  We need to have awareness and understanding of the spirit self hard wired in the brain by that time! 

The process of developing a world view is done subconsciously based on experience.  It is the thought that one will return to first throughout the body’s life.  So if a world view is developed that people are always fair and kind, that is the first reaction held when interacting with others.  (Yes, eventually the entity will learn there are people who are not that way, but it will not become the first expectation.)  If the entity decides it is a world where there is unpredictable misery and pain, then that will be the primary expectation and can only be changed by a lot of hard work as an adult, usually not until in the 30’s.  If the entity learns through trial and error, that lying can avoid much unpleasantness, then lying will tend to be the first option.  See how it works?  So if the entity is taught to stay connected with the spirit world and to seek the answers there, to trust the messages from there, then the life is a much simpler one, full of wisdom.

Yes, children are running on two tracks… physical/mental/emotional development and keeping the spiritual self alive.  It is our jobs as parents to keep up with both!  Yikes!!