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Parenting is possibly the most dynamic role one can have. It is not even the same from day to day. It is different with each child and must change as the child’s body matures.
Thus it is important to define the limited number of things that you are adamant about and leave the rest for negotiation! You have a path; the child has a path. The child will choose what to take from what you offer and then follow the path s/he will follow.
A parent’s job is to provide the best environment possible, which includes being loved and safe. A parent’s job is to keep the link open for the child and the spirit world. By teaching and modeling for the child the quality of listening to spirit for all things, the child is provided with a source of strength that cannot fail.
Fear comes from the anticipation of outcomes. If we stay in the moment, we are usually quite fine. When we anticipate the worst, that is usually what we bring to us, sigh…
On the other hand, fear serves a great purpose. It keeps us from stepping off cliffs, running into traffic, and walking into other dangerous situations. In this way fear is practical. We simply avoid consequences with which we do not wish to have to deal.
Yet, life is not meant to be safe. We each come with a clear vision of our path, and that always includes lessons to be understood. When we avoid the truth of the lessons, life has a way of hitting us over the head to make us learn. It is much easier to learn lessons with the help of a parent, than it is to postpone them until being an adult!
Parents do not like to see their children fail. But what is failure but a signal that we have made a mistake? It is like the physical pain that tells we need to take care of something in the body. Or the emotional pain that tells we are on the wrong path.
The trick with managing fear is not to become lost in it but to gauge its message. Is the outcome we anticipate unavoidable within our abilities? )Those who truly are one with spirit would not fall if stepping off the cliff, but rather become one with the air and float to safety. That, however, requires a LOT of training and practice! ) We need to always remember that all things are possible with spirit and that we will always be taken care of… we do not see the ENTIRE picture and thus often need to simply trust.
Hollywood has done a great job of teaching us to be afraid of ghosts, or spirit people as we like to call them.
Actually, the movie, ET, does a good job of showing what happens most of the time when we are afraid in the scene when the little sister first meets ET. She screams; ET screams; and everyone scares each other. When we are frightened of spirit people, our reaction usually also frightens them!
Most spirit people are those who do not know they are no longer in the flesh. They are not dead, but the bodies they inhabited are. Because nothing changed in the consciousness upon the death of the body, they are completely confused. So when they find someone who can see them, it is very exciting!
Treat spirit people just as you would anyone else. Learn who they are and set up times when it is appropriate for you to chat with them. If you want to help them go “into the light” as people sometimes say, construct a staircase in your mind somewhere in your yard that goes to the light. Point them to it and ask that those who are on the other side who help people cross over be ready to assist. This technique can be used anywhere and does a lot to help many make the transition to the spirit world.
Filed under: parenting
In regards to understanding children, we need to remember that we are all spiritual beings having a physical experience. What we are having to learn more than anything is how to maintain that spiritual knowing while in a physical body and a material world. When we are born, we are very closely linked with the spiritual world as we have just come from it. Yet like with all things, some are more closely linked than others, just like some can run, draw, write, build, or do math better than most others.
So, we come into the world as a spiritual being stuck in this seemingly useless physical shell. Yet, especially in those places influenced by western culture, everyone seems to pay more attention to this physical shell than to the spirit self. People count fingers and toes, comment on the physical appearance, remark on the amount of hair or lack thereof. While all this is going on, the spirit self is crying out, “Hey! What about me??” The spirit self’s me is the soul that is connected with all things. This spirit self knows your thoughts, your emotions and has a great understanding of what is happening. The soul is NOT too young to understand! It is just that the body is not sufficiently developed for that understanding to be communicated. This causes great frustration in the infant body and results in crying in many cases.
As explained in our book, Soulful Parenting, we need to help the soul learn how to integrate itself with the body. We know a great deal about the developmental stages of physical and intellectual growth, but do not address how to incorporate that growth with maintaining the spiritual awareness. Instead of keeping our children spiritually awake, we often put them to sleep!
So, because we are spiritual beings first, always view your child as the ancient soul s/he is. Many children who act out do so because they are misusing their abilities or unable to use them at all!
A second thing that is important to remember is that the body develops its world view by the time it is five years old! We do not have a long window of time during which to keep this connection open! We cannot wait until the body is “older” to begin working on this! When we ask a two year old to make a scratch feel better, they simply do it. A twelve year old with no experience would simply look at us and wonder “how on earth do I do that?” Children learn 75% of what they know by their third birthday! We need to have awareness and understanding of the spirit self hard wired in the brain by that time!
The process of developing a world view is done subconsciously based on experience. It is the thought that one will return to first throughout the body’s life. So if a world view is developed that people are always fair and kind, that is the first reaction held when interacting with others. (Yes, eventually the entity will learn there are people who are not that way, but it will not become the first expectation.) If the entity decides it is a world where there is unpredictable misery and pain, then that will be the primary expectation and can only be changed by a lot of hard work as an adult, usually not until in the 30’s. If the entity learns through trial and error, that lying can avoid much unpleasantness, then lying will tend to be the first option. See how it works? So if the entity is taught to stay connected with the spirit world and to seek the answers there, to trust the messages from there, then the life is a much simpler one, full of wisdom.
Yes, children are running on two tracks… physical/mental/emotional development and keeping the spiritual self alive. It is our jobs as parents to keep up with both! Yikes!!
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